*Thanks to Kim for writing the following guest post about boundaries as part of her healing journey*
Over the last two years, I learned that my boundary type has contributed to a life-long pattern of disappointment and ‘let downs’ from those that I love, from friends, to lovers, to family. Making the connection between unrealistic expectations, self talk and how that affects my boundaries was groundbreaking for me. I was also able to take this following statement to heart: “Just because there is sadness or guilt in a decision, doesn’t mean that it’s the wrong decision for me”. Keeping this statement in mind has really helped me set more healthy boundaries that are in line with what is truly best for me. I am now learning to be more true to myself with less fear of how it will affect others.
I'm a psychologist, activist, and writer. I believe in sharing our stories and wisdom as a tool for our own healing as well as the healing of those around us. For this reason I've chosen to share what I'm learning, as well as guest posts from other people who've been there.
About the Blog
This space will provide information, stories, and answers to big questions about some of my favorite topics - boundaries, burnout, trauma, self compassion, and shame resilience - all from a feminist counselling perspective.